Have you looked through your child's eyes today? A powerful shortcut!

​By Eliane Sainte-Marie, founder Parenting for Wholeness
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As you may know, one of my goals when I work with parents is to end all parenting struggles and to get to a place where the vast majority of the time, as it was for me, parenting becomes straight up EASY. 

So they can enjoy their children and their lives with them, instead of parenting.

To help them achieve what I've come to call Family Homeostasis, which I wish every parent knew is possible and is accessible through the right approach and with the proper support in getting there.

This happens in my work with parents not through me teaching them any techniques or providing them any tools, but by:

• helping them access a deep connection with themselves.
• helping them access their truth, their values and their inner guidance, and their ability to live in accordance to them.
• helping them live from a place of deep connection to their children so they really KNOW them, understand them, understand what's motivating their behaviors and what's alive in them when they're behaving in undesirable ways, a place from which they can then provide them the proper support needed in each moment.
• guiding them in clearing what's in their way of being fully present to the child, to the moment and to the situation (free of triggers and conditioning) so they have access to their inner guidance and to what can be experienced as the support of Life, the Universe, God's guidance, universal intelligence, intuition, etc.

 
Only from that place can parents have access to exactly what is called for in the moment, what, if I remember correctly, Buddhists calls 'right action.'
 
We just had our last Clean Parenting call in my current group yesterday, and the sense of ease and wonder  about that ease was palpable.
 
Most of the moms' faces were beaming, their bodies relaxed, knowing that they were in a great place in their parenting, seeing all the possibilities ahead, KNOWING that their children were going to be okay and that things were only going to keep getting better for them and their families.
 
Because they are now solidly connected to themselves and the truth for their family, and know how to fully connect to and meet their children's needs.
 
There are A LOT of things we worked on in the past two months that supported them and guided them in reaching this place.

But there is one powerful and very simple way of accessing that pure place, which you can start practicing TODAY!

It is a simple shift of attitude which can make a world of difference in your interactions with your children, and in their response to you: 

MAKE IT A HABIT TO LOOK AT SITUATIONS THROUGH YOUR CHILDREN'S EYES.

Do you ever stop and wonder what life and situations feel like from your children's perspective?
 
Making a habit of doing so is a powerful way to:

• easily have empathy for them
• be on their team
• have them trust you because they feel understood and that they matter and
• be able to come with solutions or strategies that will work for them

 
All of which are important clean parenting principles.
 
Here's an exercise I suggest you do (which is part of one of the early modules in my Clean Parenting program:)
 
Take a few minutes to look at each of your children's lives from THEIR perspective.

• Imagine what it's like to be their height: for example, to be a 2 year old and only see people's knees, and have nothing at your height level.
• Imagine what it's like to not know what's going on during the day, and just be told your next activity at the last minute.
• Imagine what it's like not to be able to meet your own needs.
• Imagine what it's like to live in a society where children are considered inferior beings, with limited rights.
• To live in a world where no one outside of your family talks to you like an equal person, but talks to your parents instead.
• To maybe have a baby or toddler in the house who just grabs whatever they see, without concern for who was using it or who it belongs to.
• To excitedly want to share something that just happened to them and be met with a tired and maybe even irritated 'what?' from their parent when you call them.
• To be left in a room alone at night, when you feel most vulnerable.
• To be left with a stranger at preschool when you've always been cared for by your parents who you feel connected and safe with.

 
These are just a few ideas to help you start looking at life through your child's eyes.
 
Think about the unfolding of their day.
 
Regular situations they encounter, and that you experience as struggles.
 
If you have multiple children, do this exercise with one child at a time.
 
And whenever you're about to approach a situation that you think could be a struggle or lead to disconnection, take a moment first to also see it from your child's eyes.
 
If you can get in the habit of automatically looking at what's going on from your children's perspective and looking for win-win's so everyone's needs can be met or at least have real empathy for your children when they can't get what they'd prefer, you'll be well on your way to also getting to a place where parenting can become straight up easy.
 
If you want help in making clean parenting a reality in your family, to experience the ease I promise you is possible in parenting, to truly enjoy your children and be the parent you long to be, and to insure that you raise whole children, I invite you to join my next Clean Parenting group!
 
I'd LOVE to have you join us if while reading this, your heart is communicating to you through an aliveness, stirring or maybe even fear, that this is right for you.
 
Imagine how different your life will feel if in just a few months you too are able to say what loads of former program participants (and these experiences ARE typical if I tell you the program's right for you when we meet) describe on the program page!
 
Just fill out this questionnaire and the sign up form below, and we'll set up a time to chat to determine if this program is right for you. I'd LOVE to work with you if it is!
 
And I hope you make a point, today and from now on, to take the time to look at what's happening in your family through your children's eyes.
 
With much love,