MY PHILOSOPHY
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We are all born whole but get conditioned by parents, educators and society into limiting and trying to change ourselves until we become mere shadows of our true selves. Most of us feel an emptiness inside which we cover and make up for with food, TV, keeping ourselves busy, making money and other distractions of all kinds. This causes us to act in all sorts of non-loving ways. There is no need to improve ourselves or to try to change ourselves into anything that we're not. All that is required is to shed the limiting beliefs and heal the wounds that we have accumulated throughout our lifetime. We then discover the beauty of who we really are and organically start living in harmony with our essential nature. |
"Thanks to Eliane I began to re-discover a side of me that my mind had been hiding away from me. She has been extremely influential at
recovering contact to the inner me. It has been powerful and emotional to see that I can get in contact to my inner core and get away from my thoughts. Thank you!!!" Luigi Labella |
Our essential nature is love, joy and peace and has access to the intelligence that we call God, Life, the Universe or a myriad of other names. We have all experienced moments of being in alignment with that essential nature, life flowing easily and joyfully. Being in that place is the way we were intended to live.
Our freedom comes in fully meeting each moment, including each emotion. In the present moment we can dissolve anything that inhabits us, limits us, and gain access to the wisdom that is available to us in every moment.
All emotions that we didn't experience because of suppression are still living in us and get triggered by events in our daily life. We have continuous opportunities to free them by choosing to experience what arises in the moment.
As we release the baggage that we've accumulated since we were children, our essence increasingly shows up at the forefront of our lives. We experience more peace, joy, love and compassion.
As we live as a pure expression of who we innately are, we tap into the intelligence of life and our life unfolds easily and joyfully.
ON PARENTING
Just like us, our children are born whole, with a blueprint of who they are. They need nurturing, support, freedom and the space to blossom into who they already essentially are.
There is nothing that we need to add to them. Our job is to support them in being themselves and to hold back from impulses to impose our own agenda on them.
They need information as to how to function in this world but not about who to be. They naturally want to do the appropriate thing; they don't need to be coerced into becoming well behaved. It's up to us parents to align our attitude and actions with their innate drive to live in harmony with others.
They are naturally loving, compassionate and self motivated. If those qualities are modeled and they are treated with a trust in those innate qualities, they will naturally exhibit them in their life.
They have very strong inner guidance; our job as parents is to trust it, nurture it and point them back to it if need be.
Many of the generally accepted societal expectations of children are not in alignment with their true capabilities or their healthy physical and emotional needs and development. This unfortunately causes much pain to both parents and children. It leads to parenting practices that create adversarial relationships and crush children's spirits.
Punishment (including consequences, removal of privileges and time-outs) is one of the greatest causes of children's disconnection from their inner motivation and innate desire to do the right thing. It severely damages the parent/child relationship. It also generally creates a negative filter through which they will perceive all future relationships, as well as a lifelong struggle with finding their own motivation to do what they would like to do. Along with unrealistic expectations, it is a direct path leading 'normal' children to having 'behavioral issues.' Rewards also have the consequence of disconnecting children from their inner motivation and desire to do the appropriate thing.
Our children are masterful in pointing out our unresolved issues. Recognizing those allows us to move from reacting to responding with our children. We can then go a long way towards making our parenting journey easier, more rewarding and so much richer by working on our issues. As we heal ourselves, we break the ancestral chain and free our children from carrying on the family legacy of pain and limitations. We also then get to enjoy a life of increased freedom and joy, and get to enjoy our children instead of struggling with them.
There is nothing that we need to add to them. Our job is to support them in being themselves and to hold back from impulses to impose our own agenda on them.
They need information as to how to function in this world but not about who to be. They naturally want to do the appropriate thing; they don't need to be coerced into becoming well behaved. It's up to us parents to align our attitude and actions with their innate drive to live in harmony with others.
They are naturally loving, compassionate and self motivated. If those qualities are modeled and they are treated with a trust in those innate qualities, they will naturally exhibit them in their life.
They have very strong inner guidance; our job as parents is to trust it, nurture it and point them back to it if need be.
Many of the generally accepted societal expectations of children are not in alignment with their true capabilities or their healthy physical and emotional needs and development. This unfortunately causes much pain to both parents and children. It leads to parenting practices that create adversarial relationships and crush children's spirits.
Punishment (including consequences, removal of privileges and time-outs) is one of the greatest causes of children's disconnection from their inner motivation and innate desire to do the right thing. It severely damages the parent/child relationship. It also generally creates a negative filter through which they will perceive all future relationships, as well as a lifelong struggle with finding their own motivation to do what they would like to do. Along with unrealistic expectations, it is a direct path leading 'normal' children to having 'behavioral issues.' Rewards also have the consequence of disconnecting children from their inner motivation and desire to do the appropriate thing.
Our children are masterful in pointing out our unresolved issues. Recognizing those allows us to move from reacting to responding with our children. We can then go a long way towards making our parenting journey easier, more rewarding and so much richer by working on our issues. As we heal ourselves, we break the ancestral chain and free our children from carrying on the family legacy of pain and limitations. We also then get to enjoy a life of increased freedom and joy, and get to enjoy our children instead of struggling with them.