What’s left once participants in my program go through the unlearning process and learn to live the core principles I teach is a way of parenting that is what our ancestors have practiced for 100’s of thousands of years. A natural and harmonious way of interacting with children without which the human race never would have survived.
When practicing Clean Parenting what you experience is connection to yourself, connection to your children, connection to your instincts and an unbiased awareness of the situation in front of you.
This in turn give you access to what’s called for in each situation.
The goal of Clean Parenting is not to remember anything you’ve read or learned but to tap into your instincts, into your inner knowing and the power of presence, where humans just like all other mammals KNOW how to parent!
(Did it ever occur to you to take your pregnant cat or dog to a male expert of their species to teach them how to care for their babies once they’re born?!?)
All the work I do with parents is to clear their way to this instinctual way of interacting with children that is still alive in them, buried under layers of conditioning.
WHAT IS CLEAN PARENTING?
I find it challenging to appropriately describe what Clean Parenting is because it’s a way of being, a stance.
You KNOW when you’re there because it feels right.
It feels good.
Down to your bones.
If feels grounded and clear.
And you feel your connection to yourself and to your child.
(You have experienced those moments, haven’t you? Imagine if your whole life you’re your children felt that way. THAT is what I want for you!)
Here’s my attempt at describing Clean Parenting:
There ARE a few principles I consider to be core to Clean Parenting.
Each of the principles is designed to bring you back to the way of being I described above, to connect you to yourself, to your children, and to attune yourself to the situation.
These core principles, from which ideally all parenting attitudes, actions and responses will arise out of, are:
Though I write and talk about numerous parenting related topics (and have already started writing three different parenting books!) most of what you hear me say can go back to one of the principles above.
CLEAN PARENTING IS NOT A TECHNIQUE!
Someone recently complained in response to one of my articles that ‘there wasn’t a single how-to in there.’ And yes, she was absolutely right.
If what you’re looking for is tips and techniques to handle situations that come up with your children or to change their behavior, Clean Parenting™ is NOT what you’re looking for.
Though there may be tips and strategies I offer that are helpful, the reason they are is because they re-align you with the core principles of Clean Parenting.
A mom who was registering for my Clean Parenting™ Program last week wanted to get a sense of how I work with the participants. She asked me what I’d respond to a situation she had just experienced, where her son had a meltdown at bedtime.
I told her that I generally hate those questions asked outside of the context of one of my programs because there’s rarely a RIGHT way to handle situations.
How I would work with her on this situation would be to ask what was going on with her son that he had a meltdown. What needs of his might be unmet. How his life is feeling overall these days. If he’s had any negative experience recently that is still unprocessed. How his relationships with his parents currently is. If she’s consistently being a clear benevolent leader to him.
I also told her that through the program, after I get to know her and her child, I’ll likely have suggestions on how she could handle the situation because I'll then have the full perspective.
Clean Parenting is for you if you’re looking for an approach to parenting that will ensure that your children grow up whole and if you want a deeply mutually respectful and cooperative relationship.
And once that’s established, problems are rare and are easily resolved.
THE PROMISE OF CLEAN PARENTING
It can take time to ‘clean up’ our parenting. To unlearn what gets in the way of our connection to our children. To create new pathways of responses to replace our negative conditioning. To reliably live the principles of Clean Parenting. And to unhook our ‘stuff’ from our interactions with our children.
(Though you CAN make massive headway toward it in just 2 months through my Clean Parenting Program! Click the link if you’re ready to live what I described.)
But once you ARE embodying Clean Parenting, parenting can become so easy that it may no longer even feel like parenting!
That was the case for me.
I honestly just felt like I was living my life with these 3 younger beings, with whom I interacted from a place of presence. Yes, it was a lot of work when they were little, but the parenting part was often times effortless.
Once you know this place in your bones and can readily access it, parenting becomes straightforward and instinctual. You can forget all the concepts you learned because you live connected to the truth of them as it lives in your bones.
And as a result, your children feel good about themselves, are happy and cooperative, and grow up feeling whole.
Life in your family is easy, harmonious, and joyful.
And that, my friend, is an incredible thing.
Lots of love,
ARE YOU READY TO BE LIVING WHAT I DESCRIBED, in just a few months?
Then check out my Clean Parenting™ Program!