By Eliane Sainte-Marie, founder of Parenting For Wholeness
Did Clair get it right when Rudy broke Cliff's juicer? Check out this video clip and see what you think.
I'll then break down what she did for you.
And that's how it's done, ladies and gentlemen!!!
Kidding aside, this clip beautifully illustrates one of the 4 core principles of my work: being a clear benevolent leader with our children. Giving them the guidance they need to learn to function in our world, in a completely respectful, attuned and non-manipulative way.
I was thrilled to discover this wonderful example in The Cosby Show's The Juicer (season 2, episode 2) because this concept is challenging to describe with words. It needs to be experienced.
(For a full discussion of this principle, read my article: The Key to Well-Behaved Children Who Listen to You, While Fully Respecting Them.)
I consider developing this clear benevolent leadership stance in our families one of the most important things we can do as parents. It's particularly important when our children are young.
I credit having mastered it as the reason I had incredible ease and harmony in my own family as my three daughters were growing up.
So now let's look at what's happening in the clip which is so on point:
I hope this video clip and discussion have given you a clearer sense of what being a leader is, and feels, and looks like. I'd love to hear your thoughts!
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2/6/2014 09:37:42 am
I love you for posting this!! I'm going to show my non-reading husband tonight. Videos just work better for some and who doesn't love the Cosbys?
2/6/2014 09:57:48 am
Great wisdom in this clip and in your post, again :)
2/7/2014 05:39:17 am
It is really helpful. Thank you!
4/13/2015 08:29:03 am
Thank you for making our job clear and faithfully, also helping to fell in a community of values like these. Keep on, I will support these examples with whatever l can *
4/13/2015 08:53:56 am
Aw, thank you Claudia! I'm so touched to hear of your appreciation and support! <3
12/3/2015 07:48:44 am
I can open the video... any ideas why? would love to see it!
12/3/2015 08:35:07 am
I've never heard of someone else having an issue with it, and it's working fine for me. Maybe it's the device you're using? Are you using a computer? If not, you may want to try that.
1/28/2016 08:00:56 pm
If only it were that easy! I pray for patience and empathy with my 7 year old daughter who has recently been diagnosed with OCD/ADHD. It is soooo hard to control myself sometimes and I know I am permanently hurting her spirit. She is a gift/blessing from God and I will keep praying and keep reading your helpful guiding words...thank you.
1/29/2016 08:25:49 pm
Yes, it is tricky to get to a place of consistently parenting as is portrayed in the video. It took me several years to get there! And for you, it's even more challenging considering your daughter's diagnoses.
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