We had such a wonderful Tribe call this month that I asked all 7 of the wonderful moms on it permission to publish it.
Which I'm delighted to say they all kindly granted me!!
I've broken down for you the 10 different topics we covered in case you don't want to listen to the whole thing, with some key points discussed as well as recommended resources for each conversation.
If you too would love to have access to me to receive this kind of coaching and support, forever (or until I retire, which I can't imagine doing before I'm at least 80 because I'm way too passionate about and fed by this work!) those quarterly group calls are one of the features of both my Clean Parenting and Quick Start programs.
HERE ARE THE 10 DISCUSSIONS ON THIS AUDIO
1. 3 yo changing his mind all the time about what he wants. Mom is able to deal with it easily when feeling good but hates how she reacts when tired. (at 2m)
Discussion: 2 main ways to address this, which are so important! Healing triggers. The difficulty, even horror, of first feeling negative feelings toward children, which often happens to very attuned parents when children are 3 - 3 1/2, and what to do about those feelings.
2. Children hitting (at 14m)
Discussion: It's always a symptom. Roots cause of it. And my pat response to children who hit, which moms love!!!
3. 2 yo having emotional outbursts over everything, refusing to wear diapers but not using toilet. (at 22m)
Discussion: A step by step guidance for supporting child in accepting diapers if not using toilet. The importance of consistency in this, and when it's okay to change your mind.
4. 4 yo being dramatic. Highly sensitive children. (at 31m)
Discussion: Just symptom of being an HSP, which makes life a lot harder. How to support children with that unique challenge and help them learn how to function well with it. How each meltdown can be seen as the equivalent of one (or even more!) therapy session. Difference between and power of full connection and patience/tolerance.
5. Issues with screen time. (at 38m)
6. Child play hitting dad. (at 48m)
Discussion: Need for clarity and clear boundaries
7. Issues with children all coming down to needing to do inner work. Difficulty in giving unconditional love to children when we didn't receive it. Highly sensitive children (at 50m)
Discussion: How much harder parenting HSP children is than more naturally resilient children. How hard it can be to take care of ourselves when we don't feel deserving of it. 3 beliefs that get in the way of self-love. The difficulty of the beginning part of the healing journey. How your children will need to do inner work but might not need therapy because they're strong and wise enough to do it on their own. The difficult of being in the nightmare phase of healing. What's needed for full recovery to happen. How our challenging children are truly our angels, leading us back to wholeness.
8. Working with inner critic, how inner critic affects parenting and teaching. Screens. (at 1h04m)
Discussion: Importance of recognizing progress, how once we clear an area of trauma/damage, the next areas of healing pop up to the surface for healing, the importance of trusting our own guidance and recognizing old programming as false. What inner guidance actually feels like. Our right to feel dignity.
9. Extending ourselves grace and compassion once we realize that our issues with our children could all be prevented by addressing them differently. Importance of mourning. (at 1h16m)
Discussion: My issues with Radical Unschooling, and why it doesn't work for many families.
10. Problem with sharing a video game between siblings. Challenge of having 3 or more children. (at 1h23m)
Discussion: Our power lies in our authenticity and in valuing our own experience. Hence the importance of getting rid of inner critic and starting to value our needs. Setting limits vs preaching and justifying.
You can also access and download the call here or here.
If you'd like to be able to participate in those calls which I offer 4 times a year (the next one is June 1st,) have access to all past calls recordings and be part of my Parenting for Wholeness Tribe Facebook group, check out my Quick Start program.
And if you want my personal support as several of the moms on the call who you can tell I worked closely with have received, check out my Clean Parenting™ program.
You can probably tell after listening to the call HOW MUCH I love working with moms, and my level of dedication to their parenting and well being in general.
I'd love to do that with you as well if you can feel yourself being called to it.
In the name of trusting your intuition as your primary guidance, as discussed on the call, I'd honor that if you're feeling the pull to do this work.
You could be just months away from living the family homeostasis which I my wish for all families and is my deep intention and focus for the ones I get the joy of personally working with. ♥
Lots of love,